Archive for July, 2015

First Love Yourself

July 19th, 2015

By Shirleen Von Hoffmann   Copyright 2015

Let’s face it, our jobs of changing lives by putting people into homes and helping those who are making the biggest purchase of their lives requires super human skillsets.  But you can’t change lives if you’re a hot mess inside.  When you mix in our High D personalities that drives us so hard we become nothing but driven hard, with nothing left in our fuel tanks.  Remember the old cliché?  “Take care of yourself first or you will have nothing left to give others.”  “Do or Die” also comes to mind and should be words we live by.


But what is self-care really and why is it so difficult?

It is our responsibility to take good care of and treat ourselves with the ultimate respect. It begins and ends with YOU…always!

I speak from experience as this topic has been a constant challenge for me.  In fact this year, the theme of my dream board is FLY…First Love Yourself.  Then you can love others.  I remember my early years in business; I was so busy I would forget to eat.  I would run till about 2PM each day on a cup of coffee.  Just stress hormones and coffee!  Not a good combination!  Oh the chaos I put my body and mind through before I figured it out.  My advice to you would be to stop now before you cause damage to yourself and F.L.Y.  One thing to remember is this: No one cares about YOU more than YOU.  If you run out of fuel and break down, life will go on at work.  Part of being successful is mastering success in home and business life.  If you are worn out and unhappy, success will be hard to come by.  If you are feeling on top of your personal world, then success a work will be much easier and feel better. 

How do you know if you are not putting yourself first?  Do you find yourself?

  • Working overtime for others when you yourself are tired, overburdened and stressed out.
  • Going long stretches and not feeding your body. Pushing hunger back when you get busy.
  • Not getting exercise in. Pushing it off when you have meetings or time conflicts.
  • Not finding time to relax, read, do something you love with those you love.superhero-suit-superman-537x402
  • Returning emails and calls, when you arrive home instead of really separating home from work.
  • Filling minutes and hours with chaos rather than sticking to a plan and executing.

The long and short of it is, in the real estate business your day is filled with clients, goals, marketing, deadlines, bosses and never a spare moment to breathe.  You are a counselor, confidant, financial guru, real estate expert, sales person, employee and wizard all in one!  You must have super human powers and in order to do that, you must charge up our batteries or you won’t fly!  So with that said, here are three things to help. 

Here are 3 things you can do to Love Yourself First.  A must read for all Super Hero’s

Step 1:  Find time each day to stop, multiple times throughout the day and say, “Did I take care of myself today?  What do I need right now?” Listen to yourself, don’t judge, just act on your own inner wisdom.  Your intuitive side will talk to you.  Are you hungry, tired, sad, stressed? Do you need to go for a walk, workout, meditate, read a book, rest?  If the answer is yes, make time to do it.  No one can do it for you.

Step 2:  Put a reminder on your computer and a timer on your cell phone.  This should remind you to check in with yourself and take action making yourself a top priority.  You are a top priority.

Step 3:  One way to accomplish self-love, is to put the event you need, on your calendar and honor it no matter what.  It’s just as important as any other appointment, actually more important.

In a recent survey it was found out of a 16 hour work day, 85% of working professionals only gave themselves 90 minutes of attention.  That includes exercise, a shower, reading and activities that bring joy and happiness to all of us.  That’s only 10% of our entire day.  That’s 90 minutes out of 960!

You’re important and deserve your own love and attention first!  Honor thyself first and you will be better to serve the rest.

 “Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.” ~Parker Palmer



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